Our son, Austin Betts Frazier, died Wednesday, Oct. 7, 2009, at his grandparent\'s home. He succumbed to a quiet, insidious disease: Bi-Polar disorder. Austin suffered valiantly from the ravages of this physically transparent illness since early adolescence. Bi-Polar is incurable and as deadly as cancer or heart disease.  It is a disease of the mind and one\'s mental outlook.

Austin is survived by his parents; his brother, Cyril Sease Frazier; and his beloved little sister, Janie Rosemary Frazier; his grandfather, Dr. James R. Sease; and many loving aunts, uncles, and cousins from both sides of our family. He was preceded in death by his maternal grandmother, Janie Tune Sease, and his paternal grandparents, Robert Y. and Linda Betts Frazier, all of Harrisonburg, Va.

Austin graduated from Harrisonburg Baptist Pre-School, Blue Ridge Christian School, Keezletown Elementary, Montevideo MS, St. Anne\'s-Belfield School and Blue Ridge Community College.  He was so proud to be a junior at James Madison University with a major in psychology.

He believed in the Lord and the redeeming grace to be found in Heaven. 

While his funeral will be private, the family asks that friends go to www.Facebook.com and search for \"Austin Frazier Memorial\" and leave us a message.  You may also go to www.kygers.com and leave a note for us on the guestbook.

If you would like to help prevent such tragedy from occurring to other families, and to raise awareness of this disease and lower the social stigma that the afflicted and their families suffer, please send a donation to: Austin Frazier Memorial at The Community Foundation, P.O. Box 1068, Harrisonburg, VA 22803. We prefer this in lieu of flowers.

Austin\'s loss leaves a hole in our life that cannot be filled. But we are comforted knowing he\'s with Grandma, Papa, \"Mom,\" and Aunt Carla, now - and with a perfect body and healthy mind.

-Bibb and Dolly Frazier

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Bibb and Dolly my heart hurts with you my heart goes out to you and your family love sincerely linda linda payne 2009-10-10 06:05:30

My sympathies Reading your beautiful tribute to your son broke my heart. As the mother of a bipolar child, I know that these kids are always walking a thin line between hope and desperation. No matter how strong they are or how much support they have, they suffer from those moments when there seems to be no way to go on. Only luck separates those who make it through those moments and those who don't. I hope you can find solace in knowing that you gave Austin a loving, supportive family --something so many of these souls don't have. How remarkable that in your moment of anguish, you have thought to use this tragedy to try to make things better for others who must follow this difficult path. May Austin's life and death bring all of us closer to understanding and improving the lives of those with this disease. My check is in the mail. With deepest sympathies.... Jody Smith Jody 2009-10-10 06:15:22

Dolly, I wish we could wrap our arms around you, Dolly. Please know your Halifax family has you in our thoughts and prayers. I bet Austin was one great kid. He had to be with a Mom like you. Love to all of you - Betty, Woody and Sarah Sarah Bane Williams, Woody Ken 2009-10-10 06:17:57

Bibb, Dolly and Janie Your wisdom in this time of extreme sadness is inspiring. Thank you for your insightful words regarding Austin's death. May God hold you close as you mourn his loss. Janie, I'm available if you need a listening ear. Jay Hartzler 2009-10-10 06:26:21

It is impossible to know the deep sense of loss you are feeling. My heart goes out to all of the Frazier family. May God's mercy help you to accept this tremendous loss. God Bless. Cliff Davis 2009-10-10 06:45:36

Bibb & Family I am so very sorry to hear about Austin. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Linda Linda Davis 2009-10-10 06:53:04

Dear Bibb, Dolly, Cy and Janie, What a beautifully tribute to your beloved son, Austin. Your heartfelt words in the newspaper this morning touched a deep place in all of us who love and struggle with our children. Our love goes out to each of you with our prayer that you will receive day by day, strength and comfort equal to your need. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. Love, Gwen Sloop Anonymous 2009-10-10 07:26:00

Dear Bibb and Dolly, I grieve for your loss but praise God that He has brought Austin home where he will suffer no more. Hold close to your hearts the promises in Romans: "in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." I pray that God will comfort you and your family and give you the strength to move forward as conquerors. God Bless You Jeanie Cupp Jeanie Cupp 2009-10-10 08:18:34

Dear Bibb, Dollie, Cy and Jamie, Your faith, courage, and loving tribute to Austin in his obituary today reveals the deep love and unfathomable loss you are experiencing. How very much he was able to achieve during his lifetime, in spite of his problem. My heart's sympathy is with you on this path that you now must travel. May God's Grace continue to comfort you and bring you to a place of Peace. Nancy Stewart Nancy Driver Stewart 2009-10-10 08:32:46

Dear Bibb, Dolly and family, Our deepest sympathy is with you at this time. We know that it must have been a struggle, not only for Austin, but for the whole family. We want you to know that you and your extended family are in our thoughts and prayers. Take comfort in the fact that God will take care of you, as he is now taking care of Austin. Love, Don, Mona, Ashley and Julia Don, Mona, Ashley and Julia 2009-10-10 08:43:41

I am so sorry for your loss I am so sorry for your loss. May your memories of your beautiful son guide you through this troubling time. May GOD bless your souls. Anonomoyous 2009-10-10 08:49:55

Dear Frazier family, I read your son's obituary in the Richmond Times dispatch this morning. I feel your pain. My daughter age 30 has this horrible disease. It is a miracle from God she has lived this long......she has tried the unthinkable....but God intervened. I would love to talk with you and maybe you can help me understand this disease. Sometimes I think I am losing my mind b/c of her......with deepest sympathy. Sonia Bocook Chesterfield Va. P.S. I do not know how to use Facebook but I do have myspace. Please feel free to email me or go to myspace. I have placed your info on my blog. Thank you so much for sharing this during your time of grief. May God bless you and your family. Phil 4.13 is my favorite verse. Sonia Bocook 2009-10-10 09:40:02

Dear Dolly, Bibb, Cy and Janie, Our hearts and prayers go out to you all in the loss of your son and brother. We can not imagine the pain you are suffering. May God and friends be with you in this most dificult time. We pray God will give you strength and comfort. All our love and prayers, Ron and Jeanie Dunham ron and Jeanie Dunham 2009-10-10 11:32:18

Dolly, Bibb, Cy, and Janie, I was so sadden to read of Austin's death. I can't begin to comprehend your pain and sorry. His tribute in the paper was so touching and helpful - thank you for writing it. I too like everyone in your community have you and your family in thought and prayers. Annette Pierce 2009-10-10 12:27:37

Dear Family You do not know me ,nor I you. But I share Austin's desease as an adult of 46 with 3 children and 12 grandchildren. It is a horrible thing to live with everday. You never know how your day will turn out. I pray for you and your family, as I hope you pray for me. It is a desease and sooooo many people just do not want to recognize it. May God bless you in your time of sorrow! Wendy Hall 2009-10-10 12:38:19

To all of the people who loved Austin, I also experienced the death of a child (my oldest daughter, Kim, age 45 on May 23,09) She also suffered from this terrible mental and emotional disease and I have a 2nd daughter (age 43) who is still living but its not called living to those of us who are "normal". I can not express in words how much I feel your loss and pain. No one can unless they have "walked-the-walk & lost-the-loss of a child. You will be remembered in my prayers and I know that Austin was so blessed to have you as his own. Your compassion & knowledge is beyond measure and what gives our lives purpose is what we can give and do for others. Memories are the only thing we leave behind. God Bless and Comfort You All as I know he will. For I know that Comfort also. Your friend in Christ Jesus, Ruth Ruth S. Traficanti 2009-10-10 12:54:42

Dear Dolly, Bibb, and Family, I t was with great sadness that I read of the death of your precious son and the sadness that this brings to you and your family. Your loss is so great but in your grief, you have written a loving tribute to him. I have many memories of the two of you when at HHS and now I will, when thinking of you, add memories of Austin. Know you are in my thoughts and that I am wishing you peace and comfort. With deepest sympathy, Mary Evelyn Neville Mary Evelyn (Bodkin) Neville 2009-10-10 14:51:42

Dear, Bibb and Family We are so sorry to hear about your son Austin. You know GOD will take good care of him now. Keep looking up and you will see him smile at you pain free! We will keep you in our thoughts and prayer! From: The Riggleman's Quenton, Chrisy, Austin, Colton, Hunter Anonymous 2009-10-10 18:22:21

Dear Dolly,Bibb,Cy,and Janie, I cannot express to you how sorry I am to hear about Austin. Being a daughter of a father who is Bi-polar, I know the windy paths that life may lead you on. All along the way, you wish that this terrible disease would stop and they would go back to being the person you knew before. Life is unpredictable and only God knows the path that we will walk. Austin is walking with God now, and he no longer has to fight to feel "normal". My prayers are with you . May God comfort you in knowing that Austin rests with him now and he no longer has to fight. God bless you all, Elizabeth If I can do anything for you, let me know. Elizabeth (your stylist) 2009-10-10 20:54:52

You do not know me but I am the mother of 5 children, one of which is bipolar. He is 18. As I read your beautiful obituary about your son, my heart just broke for you. You see, I know that any day could be the last for my son also. I commend you for putting what you did in the paper because so many people do not talk about this disease. Please know that you have touched not only me but I'm sure a LOT of people. I am so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing Austin with us. Ivy Lupacchino 2009-10-11 06:09:07

To the Frazier Family, I dont know how to express my sorry at your loss. I am a 54 year old woman who has been treeted for BI-POLAR since I was 32. For Ms. Neville to use this time in the manner she has was not kind to you his family. Some people can be treated with really good results, others like your son, myself and many others have to work at it each day. I to tried to get away from the horiable effects of being Bi-Polar, I have had employers get my personal records from drug stores and hold this aginst me. I have had I husband who said I needed to get the hell beat out of me. My daughters father had to take her away from me at age 14. I went a long time without seeing her so as her father said, she would not learn my behavorial. Chanell 7 news in Roanoke had a News reporter named Susan that did a report on mental health in the workplace and refered to us as CRAZY. I called the station they were supposed t... Faye Holdren 2009-10-11 06:56:43

Dear Bibb, Dolly, Cy, and Janie~ I am holding you in my heart at this time and the days to come. Marj Nafziger 2009-10-11 06:58:27

Dear Dolly, Bibb, Janie and Cy, Clyde and I were deeply saddened to learn of your family's tremendous loss. Please know that you, Austin and your whole family are in our thoughts and prayers. Clyde and Tammy Firman Woodberry Forest, VA Clyde and Tammy Firman 2009-10-11 07:11:28

So terribly sorry to hear of your loss We are so sorry to hear of your loss. You wrote such a wonderful tribute to Austin. There are no good words to use to help in these times, but know that our thoughts and prayers are with your whole family. Elaine & Doug Hurst 2009-10-11 07:23:11

cont from above, they were supposed to do a report to correct this but never did. I had a sister-in-law who I took to cancer treatments every week for one year even she said Bi-Polor was a horiable illiness. I would not wish this on anybody. My grandfather gave in to the illiness when My father was 9yrs old, My father was the first one there. My great-grandfather also gave in to the illiness, My uncle gave in to the illiness when I was 18. I want to give you comfort to know that there was not any thing you could have done to help your son. You did it all. Remember the good times you had together and the times that were bad rember he had very little controll of. I'm now very happy with a husband, home and My daughter just finished College. We have a good outlook on our future, but I have great Dr., People to talk to as a support system. My father who was Bi-Polar said some days you Kick it to the curb, Sometimes it<... Faye Holdren 2009-10-11 07:28:07

Kicks you to the curb. May God bless you as you morn your son, and celebrate his life. Faye Holdren 2009-10-11 07:31:09

Our prayers & thoughts are with you. Roy & Mary Grant 2009-10-11 08:00:32

I am so sorry for your loss My family has been also been touched by bipolar disorder. Both my 23 year old son and I have this disorder. My son tried to OD one time and I have had ideation many times in my life. Thankfully we are both doing much better now but we know that at anytime things could change. You are so right that bipolar is a lethal disease. Thank you for trying to bring awareness to mental illness at your time of grief. You are so very brave. May god wrap you in his arms. Janet LaSalle 2009-10-11 08:39:25

Bibb and Dolly May God wrap his arms around you and your entire family. Your family has been hit with so much loss with first Bibb's parents and now Austin. This was such a shock, but I know you both are of deep faith and know that Austin is with our Lord and Savior. He has just gone ahead to prepare for the remainder of his family. God may have have had another opening for a Guardian Angel. How comforting to know he is in heaven and free from that disorder. We know you will miss him dearly, but you also know that you will be together again. Sending our love to your whole Family. Debbie & Mike Debbie & Mike Dean 2009-10-11 09:22:16

To Dr. Sease, Dolly and family, I read of the loss of your son, Austin. I express to you my deepest sympathy and prayers. My mother was Leona Smith. I remember you and your family very well. I think your son looks alot like you. I would love to see you and Dr. Sease again when I come to Harrisonburg in the near future. I will say a prayer for you and your Austin. Sincerely, Mary Ann. Mary Ann Smith-Tucker 2009-10-11 09:47:00

Bibb, Dolly and family, May God be with you all at this time as He is with Austin. Through the sadness in your hearts you were able to write a wonderful tribute to Austin which touched us as well as many others. All of you are in our thoughts and prayers. Jay and Cathy Jay & Cathy Thomas 2009-10-11 09:48:15

Bibb, Dolly and family May God be with you in this time of sorrow. With our deepest sympathy and love. Eddie Sheffer and Family 2009-10-11 10:20:52

Thinking of you during this time Dear Frazier and Sease families, We are thinking of all of you and lifting you in prayer during this very difficult time. Let your fond memories and the knowledge that God's love will help you through this, comfort you at this time. Sincerely JoAnn and Chuck JoAnn and Chuck Bilbrey 2009-10-11 11:42:22

Your tribute to your son Austin was extremely moving.A ll of us with family members who struggle daily with mental illness are awed by their courage. Your tribute helps to lower the stigma as well. Thank you. Shelah Scott 2009-10-11 13:27:41

Dear Bib and Dolly and Robert Bib and Family, I don't know if we ever met before Bib, but I graduated with Robert. My wife Becky and I extended our deepest sympathies at the loss of your son Austin. Like so many of the other notes in this guest book, we echo their sentiments and our praise at your bravery in letting others know of the seriousness of his disorder and at the love and courage you all have shown in his life. We pray that God will fill you with His love and comfort and that you will have the strength and faith to deal with the pain. In God's love to you all. Chris & Becky Grandle Chris and Becky Grandle 2009-10-11 13:42:45

Dear Bibb and Dolly Please know that we share your sorrow and will keep you all in our prayers. The Powell Family: Bill, Eunie 2009-10-11 13:56:00

Dear Bibb and Dolly, We were all so sorry to hear about your son. So little is understood about mental illness, especially bi-polar disorder. It is truly a life threatening condition. I commend you for putting the information out in the community - every time someone comes forward, some of the stigma is removed. May you know God's love and comfort at this difficult time, and find peace in the knowledge that your beloved son is in the healing presence of God. Barbara Bowman from Staff of L 2009-10-11 16:46:36

Dear Bibb, Dolly, Cy and Janie, We ache with you in the loss of your dear son and brother Austin. This reminds us again how fragile life is. May you each feel the arms of love holding you tenderly in the coming days and weeks and months....... Thanks for sharing the beautiful tribute. With love and sympathy, Gloria and Jack Rutt Anonymous 2009-10-11 17:17:26

Dolly, Bibb and Family I would like to let you know the tribute you wrote for you son was beauliful. I am sure it will reach a lot of people in need. I use you wait on you for many years at Kroger Pharmacy. I wanted you to know I was thinking of you and my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. With sympathy, Karen Meadows Karen Meadows 2009-10-11 17:29:30

Dear Bibb and Dolly: You may not remember me from high school but I do remember the two of you. I have a son about the same age as your son and I am so sorry that you lost Austin as his life was just beginning! I am so glad to know that you have God and His loving arms around you during this time - to me, there is no other place to be and I can't even fathom a life without knowing that God is with us and knows our every need, even when we don't always understand all that is happening to us.....He knows my name, He knows my every thought, He sees each that falls and hears me when I call..... I will be praying for you and your family. Debby (Yarber) Anderson Portland, OR Debby (Yarber) Anderson 2009-10-11 23:14:28

Sorry for your loss Anonymous 2009-10-12 04:00:33

Another reminder of how precious life is. Being a high school teacher, I've also seen the debilitating effects of this disease on many of my students. My family's thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Tony Kramer 2009-10-12 05:03:52

Our hearts go out to all the family. You all will be in our thoughts and prayers. May God bless each of you with peace. Valley Stone Slinger Valley Stone Slinger 2009-10-12 05:36:07

Dear Dolly and Bibb: We were shocked to hear about Austin's passing. The obituary you wrote was truly beautiful and a tribute to your son. We hope all of you find some relief from your grief in the the wonderful responses on Facebook and via Kyger FH. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all....Judy and Roger Judy and Roger von Seldeneck 2009-10-12 05:49:51

Dear Dolly and Bibb: I shall never forget the joy provided by Austin and his brother Cy as they played their violins at our Daughter Dori's marriage to their Uncle Jim. My deepest sympathy goes out to you during this time of great sadness and suffering. Don Ross, Hico, Texas Don Ross 2009-10-12 06:21:24

Bibb & Dolly, We were quite saddended to hear of your loss. I know it must have been difficult to have fought this battle for so many years and your tribute to Austin was so touching. Your tribute brought to light the need to change our attitudes towards mental illness and recognize it as a very serious disease. Remember the good times and may God's grace be with you. wayne & lynne pankey 2009-10-12 06:32:17

Bibb, Dolly and Family, I am truly saddened to hear of your loss. May God be with you and keep you in your time of sorrow. Your courage in this difficult time is inspiring to many. Take care and God Bless. Paul Keppel 2009-10-12 06:34:08

Dear Family I don't know what made me read your obituary except the fact I know all about manic depressive illness. I lost my Son at the age of almost 33 two yrs. ago Nov. 2007. My Faith helps me but the missing is overwhelming. You done a beautiful job writing this obituary. Like my Son he is resting with Jesus and healing. No more suffering. We would be selfish to want them back home with us because of the pain they suffered. I'll never know that kind of pain. Once my Son crawled into that dark depressed hole there was no coming back out. I know how you worried and would have done anything for him but there's a reason and purpose for each of us here on this earth. This is a genetic disease and cannot be helped. No one is to blame. I hope you get visions as I have letting you see Austin is happy and in a far better place than we are. I see the joy and happiness on my Son's face a lot. I know you will cry for a long time as I have........ Rio Ferris 2009-10-12 06:39:25

My deepest condolences Dear Frazier Family and Extended Families and Friends, I will never see another Fedora without thinking of precious Austin! I was one of his advisors at Blue Ridge Community College. He did share with me some of his past experiences of depression, but always he noted that you all had been of great support and comfort to him. He loved his family dearly. I worked with him on the transfer process as well as on general academic advising. He was one sweet young man. Your obituary note was very touching. Please know I am one of many who cared about your son. Ann Smith 2009-10-12 06:47:13

Dear Dolly, Bibb, Cy, and Janie, I have been struggling to find words sufficient to express my sympathy and to offer comfort to you in some way….In falling short, I turned to the never-failing Word of God. Psalm 46: “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble…..” God is always there to help, providing refuge and peace. He does not fail to rescue those who know and love him. These tragic circumstances are so hard for any of us to understand; but, I do believe with all my heart that God has rescued Austin from the ravages of the disease that afflicted him, and Austin is now in God’s loving presence……as you said in your beautiful tribute….”with a perfect body and healthy mind”. I pray that you, and the rest of your extended family who so loved Austin, will find comfort in this assurance...an assurance which was Austin’s and which is yours as well. Love in Christ, Martha Martha Shifflett 2009-10-12 06:58:51

Bibb, and family. just a note to say you are in my thoughts. My name may not mean anything to you and that's okay. I was the station WVPT contact when you donated to the auctions . You are such a special, caring individual, I wanted you to know you are in a lot of prayers and thoughts you probably are not aware of. Jacquie Horton Anonymous 2009-10-12 07:21:57

Bibb & Family: I cannot imagine such a loss. Your well-written obituary helped us understand and share in this heartbreaking tragedy. May you find comfort in loving memories, family and friends. Pamela J. Bodkin Pamela J. Bodkin 2009-10-12 07:34:28

Dear Bibb, Dolly & Family, My heart was so grieved to hear about Austin. I remember Austin in his early years at BRCS. He was such a fine, courteous and intelligent young man. Please know that we are praying for your family. My prayer is that you will sense God's love and comfort during these very difficult days. With love and prayers, Deb Deb Harrison 2009-10-12 07:45:58

Dear Bibb, Dolly, Cy and Janie, We were so sorry to read of Austin's passing. You have our heartfelt and sincere sympathy. Frank and Mary Anna Cline 2009-10-12 08:26:40

Bibb, Dolly,Cy, and Janie, God created you as Austin's family before Austin was born, as in His divine wisdom, He knew the love and support that would of necessity surround this unique child. Austin was exceptional in his knowledge of God's word and I was often in awe at his grasp of profound principles. I know Austin possessed other abilities as well as much talent. He made his mark in this brief life ,fulfillinfg many purposes for which God called him. Now Austin is surrounded and wrapped in God's love as you are. His are no longer the burdens of life .Burdens are left behind for you to carry with God's grace such as enduring the time until you see him again. My heart breaks for you, bereft of words...only very real feelings of love for each of you as you await the eternal kingdom where those in Christ will be forever reunited. Until then, I deeply care. Kitty Bennett...the one without whiskers and tail Kitty Bennett 2009-10-12 08:55:21

Dear Bibb, Dolly and Frazier family: Please accept the prayers and deepest sympathies of your national association colleagues on the tragic loss of your son Austin. We hold you in our hearts in the days ahead. Joy Wilson 2009-10-12 09:19:35

Dear Bibb, Dolly, Cy, and Janie, Austin's story is heartbreaking. If it may be of any comfort, my family shares the same history. Thank you for finding God's strength and wisdom and a building a clear way forward. With utmost respect, sympathy, and love, Arthur, Margoth, Isabella, and Thomas, Arthur Bartenstein 2009-10-12 09:40:57

Dear Bibb, Dolly, and family, Our family is so sad to learn of Austin's passing and our prayers are with you during this difficult time. We have lovely memories of all your children during our time with your family at Blue Ridge Christian. We pray that you will know Our Heavenly Father's comfort and care through the love and concern of many around you. Sincerely, Jeff and Michele Wingo and family Jeff and Michele Wingo and fam 2009-10-12 10:28:20

Dear Bibb, Dolly and family, We were so saddened to hear about Austin. The tribute we read on Saturday was very touching and powerful, and we know he was loved so much. Please know that your family is in our prayers. Mike and Kathy Harcum 2009-10-12 10:41:45

Dear Bibb, Dolly and family I so very saddened to hear of Austin's passing. I have such fond memories of him in kindergarten at BRCS. I loved his stories of what he had learned on the Discovery channel each week. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and always remember Matthew 5:4. Much love, Sheree Sheree Will 2009-10-12 12:20:25

to console you Dear family whom I do not know: Our son Daniel, a 22-yr old transfer to Bridgewater College, left us in Dec. last year. Austin sounds much like 'my' Daniel and some of his expressions in photos on FB even remind me of Daniel. I know that I would have enjoyed knowing Austin. Daniel was a bi-polar child, I'm certain. Though his illness was neatly masked by his abundantly sweet disposition and cheerful manner, I intimately knew how hard life was for him. I admire the courage it must have taken him (and Austin) to navigate life with all its complexities and pressures. I'm sure that Austin WANTED to live. Daniel did. He had hopes for his life, but illness clouded them out. I know that Daniel didn't want me to be sad as he called me just before he left to tell me so. This, in some measure, makes it easier. Unlike some, we are lucky as we knew the pain these boys were in so we understand why they had to leave ahead of us. ... Debra Sheffer 2009-10-12 12:58:51

Dear Bibb, Dolly, Cy, and Janie My wife and I were grieved to hear of your loss. We extend our love and prayers as your family deals with this difficult time. Sincerely, Loyd & Tonya Whetzel Loyd & Tonya Whetzel 2009-10-12 13:29:28

My deepest sympathy Dolly, Bibb and family, I'm so sadden and sorry for the loss of your dear son. Please accept my deepest sympathy and my love and prayers are with you all as you deal with this tragedy. Dolly, I have thought of you very often though the years and wondered how you have been doing and if you are still doing your art. I idealized you in high school and always thought you had great talent (in art and gymnastics). I hope you are able to express your grief and help release the pain through your art. Please take great care of yourself and your family and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Sincerely, Tracy Rose Moyers Tracy Rose Moyers 2009-10-12 14:31:08

To the Fraizer Family The obituary of your son Austin was very touching. Especially so since my grandson battles and struggles with mental illness daily . I pray God's blessings and comfort for you in the days ahead. Dolly, your mother Janie Tune taught me at Scottsburg High School in the early '50's. I had known her before, as she and my brother graduated from Halifax High School together. She was one teacher that I truly loved. She was joyful to be around. I know Austin and she are having a joyful reunion. God bless you all. Ms.Jackie B. Conner 2009-10-12 14:53:30

Dolly, Bibb and Family Prayers are with you and your family. Karen 2009-10-12 15:32:22

Bibb, Dolly, Cy and Janie, Our prayers are with you at this time. The obituary was beautifully written and will help convey the importance of society trying to understand the struggles involved in dealing with mental illness. We pray that God will continue to give you the strength in coming days and the peace of mind to remember all the beautiful ways Austin touched your lives. with love, Cathy and Donn Cathy and Donn Meyerhoeffer 2009-10-12 15:42:22

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Dear Dolly, Bibb and Janie, My husband mentioned your exquisite obituary when we were walking last night,. He said how brave it was for and helpful for a family to share what happened. I didn't read it until just now. When I saw your names, I felt so crushed that this has come to your family I know there is nothing you did not do to help. I am so very sad for you and hope you will someday be better. You don't really know me well, but I met you three in the pottery studio. Maureen Maureen Kelly 2009-10-12 17:10:57

We are so sorry for your loss. You wrote such a beautiful tribute to Austin and to the terrible disease. May God be with you during this difficult time. Vic & Amanda Taylor 2009-10-12 18:11:05

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Austin, Texas I know Jim Sease. I am thinking of your family in this very difficult time. Paul Hennessy 2009-10-13 05:15:03

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When I read of Austin's death it hirtmy heart. I have Bipolar Disorder and know the pain and devastation the disease causes. Un less you've suffered with it you'll never completely understand the struggle to stay alive sometimes. I'm not meaning to take anything from the family because I see how this disease effects everyone who knows this person and even some that don't. My father also had BP and took his own life on Thanksgiving day 1996. You don't get over it just learn to live with it. It's on my mind every day of my life. I'm an RN and have been thinking of what I can do to help educate others and also help those with this horrible disease. It's amazing the stigma about mental illness in this day and age. I've kept my illness a secret to many just because of the wat people react. The medical community is no different. There are many Drs and nurses who have no insight whatsoever. I've been hurt by many comments by piers who ... cindy heatwole 2009-10-13 06:27:53

Bibb,Dolly,Cy Janie How saddened I am to learn of Austin's passing and how he suffered with bi-polar diorder. He was such a wonderful boy full of life and energy when I knew him. I praise the Lord for allowing me to have had a part in his life and will continue to pray for your family as you go through this difficult time. May God surround each of you with His peace beyond comprehension and strength for the days ahead. Pamela Barnum 1st Grade Teache 2009-10-13 06:57:54

Our hearts go out to you both and your family. You've been in our prayers since we saw the obituary, and you'll continue to be as well as you go forward. Thank you for providing the details of such a challenging disease, so that we and others can give more thought to how we can help and how we respond to others on a daily basis. I wish you peace in the months ahead. Steve and Carol Krohn 2009-10-13 10:14:44

Dear Dolly, Bibb and Family, We have such fond memories of Austin and the times he spent with our son Ethan. One time he went with us to Jess' Lunch and had us all practically rolling on the floor with his sense of humor. I'll never forget it! Thanks for raising the public awareness about bipolar disorder as our family too has been touched by this illness. Our love to you all, Tim, Patsy, Ethan and Leah Wagner Tim and Patsy Wagner 2009-10-13 10:53:26

You do not know me, but I was so impressed with Austin's obituary. I had a Bi-Polar grandson who shot himself in the face with a shotgun at my home last year. He was a college senior. His mother found him, and she will never be the same. I love your explanation of the illness which people do not understand. Now from your words, I can picture my Ryan as whole in mind and body. Thank you. Anonymous 2009-10-13 11:07:08

Dear Dolly, Bibb and Family, It was with great sadness that I read your lovely, loving obituary for your son. Your courage and love have touched everyone who reads it. Looking at his photos, I can see both Dolly and Bibb in Austin. I know he was fortunate to be in such a loving and supportive home. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you. Mary Aldhizer Sloat 2009-10-13 11:49:57

Message: To the parents of Austin Betts Frazier: I am so saddened to read of the death of your son. He sounded like a wonderful young man. I, too, lost my son to mental illness, deep depression disorder, May 20th. Attached is his obituary. He accomplished so much in his short life. He was the heart and soul of our family. He was the light of my life! Life must go on but the pain of his loss never leaves. Please visit the Notice for Alexander Randolph Thomas. Alexander Randolph Thomas 2009-10-13 12:09:57

My heart goes out to you. Your son and brother pictures show him to be a beautiful soul. So sorry he suffered.Ipray for you. I am a 46 and I have suffered from this disease since early adolesence it is a miracle I am alive. Many times I have wanted to die. I have fought to stay alive. I am better now that I have gotten older and do not live a recklesss lifestyle anymore. I tried to kill myself once but I didn,t wand to die. I don.t want to die anymore. I hope one day you will write a book about Austins life. robin arey 2009-10-13 12:21:06

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Frazier and family Last week while visiting family in Richmond, I read your loving tribute to your son. You have such courage to talk so openly about mental illness. My 23 year old brother took his own life 17 years ago. He was the blond hair, blue eyed baby of the family , actually he was the clown, who knew no strangers and lit up every room he entered ( even the county jail). Back then Ann Scott 2009-10-15 13:04:54

continued: people didn\'t talk about mental illness and medication wasn\'t available. He never received the help that is available today. I know that he would be diagnosed with bi-polar today. I am so saddened that you have lost your son. Ann Scott Ann Scott 2009-10-15 13:04:24

Dear Dolly, Bibb, Cy, Janie and Dr. Sease, When I heard about Austin, my heart was so saddened and broken for your family. Austin's obituary was incredibly thoughtful and sensitive,,,even though the grief you surely felt from his loss had to have been staggering at such a time. I pray the Lord will use it to help many others (and It appears that it is)...while He gives each of you...the Peace which passes all understanding. Your family has my love, prayers and condolences. Kathy Kathy Metcalfe 2009-10-13 15:21:54

Condolences Dear Bibb, Dolly, and Family, While out of touch for some time, Austin was never away from my heart. Nobody else can understand your loss of or the wonder of Austin as you do. Thank you for sharing him with the STAB community. He expanded my view of the world. In my thoughts and prayers, Bob Troy Bob Troy 2009-10-13 18:33:16

Dear Bibb, Dolly and Family My dear Friend, Your stength in these times of extreme loss and sadness are a testment to deep love and closeness that has be part of your family. Austin takes with him and he neand heav Austin takes it to him and he never will be alone. Take comfort in the fact that God will take care of you, as he is now taking care of Austin. Our prayers are with you and Dolly and the family. Our love to all of you. Ramesh and Kalpana Ramesh, Kalpana and Priya Venk 2009-10-14 08:43:31

Dear Bibb and Family, May you find some comfort knowing that Ausitn is at peace now in the arms of the angels. Dawn Dawn Heneberry 2009-10-14 09:13:50

Dear Bibb & Dolly I've heard it said that when you lose your parents, you are called an orphan. When you lose your spouse, you are called a widow (widower). But when you lose a child, there are no words for it. I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I appreciate what you had to say about Austin. My prayers are that our Father in Heaven will hold you in a powerful way. Love, Allen Allen Yoho 2009-10-14 14:09:58

Bibb & Dolly: I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that the many friends you have, for what is now many years share in your sorrow. Take care of each other and ask for the support of friends when you feel you need to speak to someone else. Bob Jones 2009-10-14 16:03:29

My heart goes out to the Frazier family on the loos of Austin, I do not know him or his family. However, my niece suffers from the same horrible disease. And I know how hard it is not only for the one who has the diease but, also the entire family. He is now angle and no longer suffering. May god bless all of you during this very difficult time ANd you are in my thoughts and prayers. May god bless all of you. And I will be sending my check mary 2009-10-15 05:31:03

Bibb, Dolly, Cyril, Janie, and family, Words can never express the depth of sorrow I felt when reading of Austin's passing. The Lord has gone into His garden and plucked the choicest flowers to grace His table and though our own garden has lost a flower, know that Austin is now without fear or pain but at peace. May our Gracious God help you with all your hurts for He is the Source for all our comforts. Our prayers and support are with you. Kevin, Jacqueline, Kevin, and Christina Black Kevin P. Black 2009-10-15 05:56:11

Dear Loved Ones, Thank you for the courage you show in sharing facts about Austin's illness. It is my hope that as we become more aware, treatment may improve and we may all know how best to help each other. I pray that dear Austin is surrounded by the peace and happiness that he so richly deserves. Betsy Betsy 2009-10-15 06:09:21

Dear Frazier Family Our thoughts & prayers continue to be with you in the loss of your dear Austin. May the good memories you have be a blessing to each of you in the day ahead. May God bless you and be your comfort. The Links Anonymous 2009-10-15 06:56:03

Our prayers for you are that God will carry you during this time of grief and may you always be blessed with the knowledge that you loved your son to the fullest and you brought him to an abundant life in Christ. It doesn't matter that the Bipolar life doesn't look like other lives. I am the mother of a beloved 18 year old son with Bipolar who struggles every day. I am also a mental health professional with 21 years experience. I never dreamed Bipolar would occur in our family. I am painfully aware of how life threatening it is for our son and how important it is to understand. love, and forgive. Thank you for sharing your love for your son with this community. May we all be moved to reach out and help someone else because of you and your son. Margie Smith, Richmond 2009-10-15 08:45:27

Dear Bibb and Dolly and family I was very sorry to hear about the loss of your dear son. My deepest sympathy and prayers. Kim Sandum Kim Sandum 2009-10-15 09:08:11

Too all the people whom have supported this family GOD BLESS YOU! For the people how have no idea what Bi-polar is and have made unrespectful comments I pray for you! Mrs. hall 2009-10-15 09:39:16

We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and our prayers. Museum of the Shenandoah Valle 2009-10-15 10:43:52

May your faith bring you peace. Your family is an inspiration for all of us whose loved ones suffer from mental illness. I aspire to manifest the courage, patience, devotion, and loving-kindness that you exemplify. Kathryn 2009-10-15 12:47:49

Your proud and peaceful tribute to a beloved young son who died too young touched me deeply. For nearly 40 years my bipolarity surfaced every year for several months at a time. I live in Washington DC, and I shall send a donationto Austin's memorialo foundation. If I can help in any other way, perhgaps by speaking to local high school groups, please call on me. Sincerely, John Steven Hoglund, 1414 17th Street NW, Washington DC 20036. I admire your courage and the fullness of your hearts that at such an anguished moment in your lives you can act on behalf of those still suffering from the illness that took Austin from you and his friends. God bless you both, and your extended family and friends. Steve Hoglund 2009-10-15 14:25:50

The lord is my shepard. Anonymous 2009-10-15 15:18:19

Bibb and Dolly, My heart was breaking when I read about your loss, and Austin sounded like a great man. I believe everyone who suffers from bi-polar disorder deserves to be called brave and I am sure he was no different. I have had many friends who were similarly afflicted by the disease and I greatly, greatly appreciated your treatment of the subject in the tribute printed. I find it difficult not to believe that the world of ego, material, and the cycle of life and death is a distracting illusion from the universe of God's love, and that we are reunited with the ones we loved in life, after death. Thank you for your positive words about bi-polar disorder, and my heart goes out to your family. I am sure you are wonderful people. chris 2009-10-15 19:06:36

I could not help but be moved by the beautiful obituary of your son Austin. My husband and I lost our 28 year old son, Matt, our only child, to colon cancer on August 16th. You honored your son with your candor in discussing an often stigmatized disease. Our hearts go out to you and your family. Sheri and Mark Miller 2009-10-15 19:31:00

I'm sorry but the previous comment The lord is my shepard was not written by me or my husband. Sheri and Mark Miller 2009-10-15 19:33:41

See above Sheri and Mark Miller 2009-10-15 19:34:26

Dear Frazier family I am deeply saddened by your loss. I can't imagine the pain and grief you are enduring. I know the loss of parents, and in-laws, and my husband; but thank God, not a child. Remember that God will always give you the strength you need. The tribute you wrote is beautiful and it sure seems like Austin was a wonderful loving young man. My step son is 10 and has been diagnosed with this also. He has had so much in his young life with loosing his mom when he was 6. I pray that God will give him the strength and courage to endure this cruel world. I would love to talk to you more about this. I have a lot that I don't understand about Bi-Polar. If you ever need to talk, I am here.[mynan24@frontiernet.net] My husband is a Pastor and we are praying for your family. God bless you all. Nancy Cutlip 2009-10-16 05:04:06

To the family of Austin Our faith sustains us. Our son, Keith, was ejected from his vehicle Sept. 26, 2009. He died at the scene. Keith had been diagnosed with bi-polar since early adolescence and we had the great privilege of loving him for over 36 years. Know that we understand your sadness and pray for your comfort. Earl & Renea Vann 2009-10-16 07:58:05

Dear Dolly, Bibb and Family, Mom keeps me informed and told me of your son's death. I have practiced inpatient mental health nursing in the past and while I understand the illness, I cannot fully comprehend your loss. I'm so sorry and do hope you find comfort and eventually, peace. Marian Bodkin Rabeno 2009-10-16 08:34:36

Medical Director. Va Bch MHSA The Obituary for your son was beautifully written.Your grace in expression will go a long way in reducing stigma. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you find Peace in your hearts. David A. Rosin, MD 2009-10-16 13:38:25

Worried Mother I am so sorry for your loss. I am so scared by reading all the testomonies in the guestbook. My son was diagnosed when he was 22 and he is now 25. He has had 2 eposodes and has been on his medication for the last 2 years. What don't I know about this illness that I should. How does it kill them? Do they just get tired and take their lives or are they destructive to the point that it takes their lives? My son will not open up to me so I am so blind to this disease except for the classes I have taken and they seem to always be getting off their meds and having eposodes. Would it be unrealistic to think my son will stay on his meds forever like he has for the last 2 years and during the time on the meds are they hurting in some way inside? Please help me understand. Gwen Dodson 2009-10-16 14:56:38

bipolar person Please contact me at shogl@yahoo.com or weekends at 202 387-8907 Steve Hoglund 2009-10-16 15:34:00

-- Please feel free to write me anytime at shogl@yahoo.com or call me weekends at 202 387-8907. Steve Hoglund (bipolar person) 2009-10-16 15:36:06

My deepest sympathies Dear Frazier Family, Reading your son's obituary really puts a belief to this horrible disease! My son has suffered since he was 16 and will not take meds. I pray each day he does not have a melt down and do something desperate although we have had some close calls. I cannot fathom the grief you must be feeling, but I hope you will have some comfort knowing this disease cannot make him suffer anymore. I pray that you and your family find some comfort and strength to get thru the next few days, weeks, months and years to come. I will say a prayer for you. Melanie Werdebaugh 2009-10-16 15:53:55

Bibb, Dolly and Family, Heartbreaking news about Austin. We know about the daily struggles of contending with mental illness. It is frustrating at best, horrifying at worst. Thank you for opening up about the problem. We can not deal with this prevalent disease as a society until we at least acknowledge it's existance. The grief you bare is but a shadow of the love you shared. Chuck & Debbie Layman Anonymous 2009-10-17 07:03:16

Peace and prayers to your family Our deepest sympathy. The Stieber Family 2009-10-17 16:29:00

Bibb and Dolly - I am lifting you both into God's arms and praying that He will comfort you as only He can. Bibb, in January I have to perform at a UDC function and I plan on singing a couple of your mom's songs she wrote for UDC. I hope this brings a smile to your face. Lisa Foltz Meyer 2009-10-17 17:32:55

Bibb and Dolly. As a Mother of a teen Bi_polar I am sending my very deepest condolences for the lost of Austin, I know how is the daily struggle with this disorder. My prayers in this hard times for all of you. Silvia Winkler. Silvia wWnkler 2009-10-18 11:56:15

Prayers are with you Dear Frazier Family, My heartfelt sympathy to all of you on the loss of your son, Austin. I too lost my son at age 27 to mental illness, also with the onset at early adolescence. God helped me keep my life together after the tragedy--I've learned to live with it, and accept that I will never get over missing my Tyler, but that life still can be worthwhile. The boys are at peace. The McMahon Family Paula McMahon 2009-10-19 13:27:51

i was very saddened to hear of the loss of your son. i cannot imagine the pain you are feeling, but i do know the pain austin felt, for i too have been dealing with bi polar, depression, and anxiety disorder for many years. i am 35 yrs old, with 2 children, whom i pray never get this disease. i know that with your son everyday was probably a struggle for him. so many times i wonder am i going to make it? but i keep my faith in God, and pray that he spares whats left of my mind so that i can function normally on my meds, and raise my children without them suffering because of my behavior at times. my prayers are with you. and i cry for you. i know austin's pain all too well. would it be presumptious for me to ask, how bi polar took his life? this disease scares me, and any information you could givee me would be appreciated, but if you do respond, please take your time, as i know you are grieving. agian , i am so saddend and sorr... valerie cox 2009-10-19 17:54:09

To the parents and family of Austin Frazier, When I learned of Austin's passing, I was deeply saddened. I knew Austin briefly as a teacher at Spotswood High School. I saw Austin early this semester, when he reintroduced himself to me outside my office at JMU. He was clearly very excited about being at JMU. We passed each other once or twice since then and exchanged a pleasant hello. I am deeply saddened at the loss of this promising student. You have my hearfelt sympathy, thoughts, and prayers. Sincerely, Michael L. Allain Michael L. Allain 2009-10-20 06:50:09

Thoughts and Prayers are with you from us Bibb, Dolly, brother, sister and family: although we only know each other somewhat from a business relationship, i wanted to write a note to express my (our family and business team's) deepest of sympathy. Although i don't think i had ever had the pleasure of meeting Austin personally, i can only imagine how perfect this individual was, coming from the family he was raised in and around that i have known for quite some time through the years... Although i'm sure there are many questions left un-answered, please feel resolve in the fact that your son is in a group of angels, just like he is. Unfortunatley, my family has just suffered a similar loss to my brother-in-law last year and we have found that all you can do is hold dear to the great times we have all spent w/ our loved ones and trust in the fact that they are in a better place in the heavens above with no pain and suffering inside any longer. I don't int... Greg Shaffer / Mid Atlantic Mo 2009-10-21 21:57:39

Prayers Dear Bibb, It is with great sadness that I write to you and your family after learning about the loss of your son. I know how much a parent loves a child, and losing that child leaves a hole in your heart forever. I am so sorry. Your care and love of children was evident in your work with the Boy Scouts and will always be remembered by me. Even though this thought arrives late, I want to thank you for all the time, dedication, and patience you showed to all the boys. You and your family are in my prayers. Love, Sandy Gustafson Sandy Gustafson 2009-10-23 08:44:47

Dear Bibb and family, I'm so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. As the father of three, I know that children are the most precious thing in life. I want to thank you for the guidance and role model you provided to me as my Assistant Scout Master. My deepest condolences, Ed Liskey Ed Liskey 2009-10-23 12:32:25

Dear Frazier Family, I am so sorry for your loss, and sincerely appreciate your willingness to share your personal story in the Washington Post. I clipped and will keep the obituary because your beloved Austin could be my own son, who at age 20, struggles daily with dual diagnosis bi-polar/addiction issues. Every hour is a struggle, and it has torn our family apart. God bless Austin, may he rest in peace, and may you find comfort in knowing that perfect strangers are thinking of you and praying for you and Austin every day. God Bless, Lori Lori 2009-10-23 17:11:05

Heartfelt sympathy I just wanted to express how moved I was after reading your sons obituary, the way you explained that awful, hard to understand disease so well. My father was Bi Polar and one of the most caring, smart and fascinating persons I have ever known. I too beleive he is now with a perfect body and healthy mind. Knowing that has made losing him much easier. May God Bless you and give you peace. Betsy Kirby 2009-10-26 17:19:10

In Our hearts and Prayers I don't know what to say in the face of such an immeasurable tragedy. Kitty and I were deeply moved when we read Austin's obituary. Your family is, and will continue to be, in our thoughts and prayers. Dave & Kitty Beehner 2009-10-27 10:18:11

Bibb and Dolly, I just learned of Austin's death. Although I did not know him personally, his beautiful eyes and wonderful warm smile let me know that he was a loved and treasured son. As a parent, my heart just breaks for you. Your poignant obituary has obviously touched so many people, and your courage to reach out to others is a blessing. Just know that you are in my prayers. Jan Morehead VTCA Jan Morehead 2009-10-30 10:19:25

Dear Bibb,Dolly, and Family My heart goes out to you and your family. As a parent, I cannot imagine the loss. As a daughter of a loved one who suffered with Bi Polar illness, I mourn with sympathy and great understanding. May God bring all peace, clarity and strength to continue. Bless you all. Melody Betts Dresseno & Family Melody Betts Dresseno 2009-11-17 03:38:01

Dear Bibb, Dolly, Cy and Janie We are so sorry to learn of the death of Austin. We are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Mark and Julia Pfenning Mark and Julia Pfenning 2009-11-24 08:48:57

Bless this family Father God Anonymous 2009-12-01 09:29:46

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